Srimathe Ramanujaya Namaha,
Exactly said BhagavAtas Partially,
But the full actual reason Why Swami says we should not be “Aggressive” is because “WE ALL ARE NOT PERFECT“, So when we try to be aggressive or harsh on others, then it is under assumption that we are correct or Perfect, which is not true, since each of us are not perfect. This is like we all living inside a “Glass House” and throwing stones at others, as if we are correct and pointing in others mistakes though we would have committed the same mistake in a different place at different times. But BhagavAn keeps an account of our each action and it returns AUTOMATICALLY back to us only like the “Boomerang Analogy” as Swami mentioned in recent Enpani.
What we throw is what we get back in return like the “Boomerang Analogy”.
This “Throw” means our Actions Done (Karma’s) either past, actions, present actions (ongoing) or future actions
So when we say, you are incorrect, then BhagavAn will setup someone to say to us that “you are incorrect” in a different location and we will be clueless as to why this incident happened to me, when I did not do anything in this particular place.
Like if we advise a person strictly, then we will be advised strictly by someone. This is is BhagavAns System.
So Velukkudi Swami says, since EACH of us while in Samsaram WILL NEVER BE PERFECT, the best solution is change “AGGRESSION to SUGGESTION“.
So based on Boomerang Analogy, what we throw will return back to us. So throwing a “light weight boomerang (suggestion) will return back to us as someone “Suggestive” to us which is easy to catch and we don’t get injured and makes our life easier.
But if we throw “Aggression (heavy duty Boomerang), it will return to us only and if we don’t catch it properly, then it can injure us and cause serious damage.
So based in “Boomerang Analogy (Karma Theory)“,
1) Avoid AGGRESSION if we are scared of Aggression in Return,
2) Avoid SUGGESTION if we are soft hearted to even accept SUGGESTION in return,
3) Best is “KEEP Quite”, so the return is “Quite”. That’s why we are avoiding counteract or not reacting to a Aggressive situation, it is NOT meant to be understod as opponent will lose.
It’s ones own choice, what we need in return is what we need to throw. Super theory by BhagavAn. That’s why BhagavAn expects us to use our Freedom Freewill (Jeeva Swathantriyam) and utilize it properly as per HIS Wish.
So the ideal situation, KEEP QUITE or EVEN IF WE DECIDE TO TALK (Open Mouth), then talk ONLY GOOD THINGS about others (POSITIVE MIND), like if one says or bluffs 10 things, just pick only the one good thing out of what they spoke and skip the remaining 9 odd things, don’t answer it. If you look at adiyen’s all threads, Adiyen try to follow this method (Positive mind) as much as possible with Acharya ThiruvAdi Bhalam and Velukkudi Swami’s Aasirvadham.
That’s why Velukkudi Sri Krishnan Swami has graced answer in enpani #543 “Suggestion or Aggression”, where Swami concludes that we devotees have to be suggestive and not aggressive, since Swami says we all are not perfect. Swami lowers Himself in this enpani as Swami is not perfect, though we devotees know that Swami doesn’t do any mistakes & Swami is Perfect.
And further Swami says in Mahabharat episode as mentioned in previous thread not to react and keep quite if we cannot face suggestion, and it is not to be understood as opponent defeat, since as per Boomerang Analogy, the type 3) Quiteness is what we throwed, so we are getting the same in return.
This is what Adiyen has understood with Acharya ThiruvAdi Bhalam and Velukkudi Swami’s Aasirvadham / Abhimaanam and adiyen referred to Vikram Swami for the same question in the below thread in the past.
https://www.kinchit.org/dharma-sandeha/thread/how-to-control-aggression-be-sathvikam/
Based on the Boomerang Analogy, honestly based on Vikram Swami’s above post “……Do what I say, you are below me, is this okay to anyone other than God?………”, it appears to be that Vikram Swami said the same thing to his brother or someone in office or somewhere else in this Janma or past Janma, which returned to Vikram Swami at a different time automatically. But this is purely based on adiyen’s thought process based in Swami’s Boomerang Analogy, but only BhagavAn knows the truth, and also Vikram may know the truth if he remembers it.
So what is the solution is BhagavAn expects us to use our Freedom Freewill (Jeeva Swathantriyam) and utilize it properly as per HIS Wish.
skip type 1) aggression, if we don’t want it return, follow type 2) suggestion. If we still don’t want suggestion in return, best is follow type 3) “Keep Quite”, very simple formula, and this Boomerang Analogy is common/impartial for all, not matter what we try to argue about it, since it is BhagavAns Beautiful Design. Automatically these odd happenings in life will slowly subside due to Acharya Krupai.
Adiyen (ElayaAlwar) Srinivasa (DhoddayAcharyar) Dasan.