Adiyen Ramanuja Dasan
How to handle rude/loukika behaviours of people as well as self in sath sangam?
We come to sathsangam to escape loukika but what can we do if we face same loukika crap in
sathsangam as well
This is so frustrating sometimes when people who are supposed to set examples are being ridiculous , do not learn their lesson and repeat the offences.
Such cheap behaviours ,knowingly repeating offenses gets on nerves.Sathsangam is supposed to be safe haven from loukika and not the other way around.
Swamy, if we are facing such a situation, it means we have unknowingly or knowingly, in the recent past or in the distant past done something to deserve it. Let us introspect and pray to our Perumal to help us overcome that defect and move on.
What others should do, that is their business with their acharyan and Perumal. It is not our business to to worry on their behalf. If at all they are someone with whom we have a good relationship, then we may express our veiws at an appropraite time. If we do not have a good relationship with them, whatever we may say is not likely to have any effect; so, pray for them and move on.
In the Bhagavad Gita several times Perumal instructs us to tolerate the opposites such as sukaha-dukha, labha-alabha, jaya-ajaya, ninda-sthuti, sheetha-usna, harsha-amarsha, so on.
So, the ‘getting on nerves’ situations are an opportunity to remember Perumal’s instruction and pray to Him for the quality of tolerance.
I am also trying just like you.
adiyen dasan.
Srimathe Rangaramanuja Mahadesikaya Namaha
Perumal pAthukarAr. Devareer is not alone but one thing adiyen observed situation will subside if we become polite & submissive in Sath Sangan.
Let’s not expect anything from anyone..
We all are on a specific learning curve.
Lowkikan is not easy to overcome. We may feel upset when reality is different from prescribed Spirituality.
Not everybody is KoorathAzwAn to say “I might have thought someone’s thiruman is slanting so i lost my eyesight.”
Nobody is an exception.
Let’s try to perfect ourselves and be closer to PerumaL.
Dasanudasan
Namaskaram Swami
Who Knows it could be Bhagwat Sankalpam, in order to bestow his grace, making you involve in a satsangam and when unwanted situation arises, then what all good actions which we could have heard in upanayasams and as liked by Bhagwan, could be implemented, like Patience, Endurance etc can be developed moreover Pagutha Arivu can also play an important role i.e of which things to give importance to and of which not to. so a great opportunity.
Adiyen
Yes, swami, it’s sad to see
All we can do is –
Stay away from them but with respect – the best option
If you are at a position of giving them guidance, try to speak to them – risky
Ultimately – your devotion or Saranagathi matters. Ignore the unwanted
If you can’t tolerate, walk away from them
Jai Srimanarayana
