Srimathe Ramanujaya Namaha,

Yes Vikram Swami. This is Velukkudi Swami’s Enpani #172 which Adiyen shared to devareer in past Nov’2016 as in below link.

https://www.kinchit.org/dharma-sandeha/thread/thaaye-thandhaiye-ennum-possible-to-discard-relationship/

Basically what Swami says is, the 60 year old couple were taking care of their 80 year old parents though their own kids who are were married and grown up were living somewhere away with their family who were not around their Dharmic 60 year old parents. But when Velukkudi Swami asked the 60 year old couples, they said generously, let wherever my kids and their family be there live happily, but I’m taking care of my 80 year old patents for the sake of doing Dharmam without expecting any Phalam for SriRama BhagavAn’s Preethyartham. So due to this “Uyarndha Ullam of the 60 year old couples, Velukkudi Swami does Abhimaanam on them as விதை இங்கே அறுவடை ஸ்ரீவைகுண்டத்தில், since BhagavAm Sri Rama is gives them Moksham due to their Dharmic Kainkaryam to their parents for BhagavAn SriRama’s Happiness. So if anyone follow such scenario of doing Dharmam for SriRama BhagavAn’s Preethyartham without expecting any Phalam, then SriRama BhagavAn gives them Moksham is what Swami said in Enpani #172.

https://www.kinchit.org/kinchit-en-pani/151-200/

Also in another Upanyasam, there is also a clause that one should stay away from Dhushta Savakasam, like if Parents are not Dharmic Chinthanai, then we should stay away from them and should not serve them, like Dhridharashtra is parent of Dhuryodhana etc பையனுக்கு நல்லது செய்வதுபோல் நினைத்துகொண்டு மருமகளுக்கு கெடுதல் செய்பவர்களும் உண்டு……They are Aabhaasa Bandhus parents, so such parents are not Dharmic Chinthanai and we should avoid them, since we think Kurushetra is just a Ithihaasam, it’s not like that. Every family internal happenings are like Kurushetra, so we have to be Dharmic and judge if our parent is directing us in correct dharmic path or something else. Based on that we should point their mistakes as not to do, if not we should call cops, and not take situation in hand by saying whatever they do, they are Parents, it’s not like that.

So Swami’s Enpani #172 is only for serving a Dharmic Chinthanai Parents who lives to do Dharmam without expecting any Phalam for SriRama BhagavAn’s Preethyartham.

Adiyen (ElayaAlwar) Srinivasa (DhoddayAcharyar) Dasan

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