Adiyen, dhanyosmi for reply. Adiyen is not expecting for luxurious life but for safety., Family situation etc.

It was for everyone not just Deviyar. Adiyen have seen many (both men & women) losing on family but boasts of professional success. What’s the use?

Dasanudasan

Nothing wrong going to job.

One line answer. Availability to family & kids is of utmost importance. We don’t know exactly how much money will make us happy & end up in wild goose chase. We should not be afraid of putting leave. Coming to Upanyasam. Acharyan used to say.

“Prioritise sampradhayam and come to me. Out leave”

*Put leave

Ippo na wrong nu sonna yaaravadhu kekka porela?
Summa edhukku kelvi kekkanum?
Earning money is supplimentary. Family stabilization is the main.

Husband assisting wife’s business or wife assisting husband’s business also okay.

Ultimate aim is to “Happily live ever after”.

I am cancelling most of my travel making family the priority. It is up to the individual.

Foreign poi dhan sambadhikkanum nu avasiyam illa.
Dasanudasan

Why can’t men balance family & women go to job?

Who said universal solution not possible?

According to shastra “Couple should not be seperated even for job”

“Udhyoga nimiththa kuda piriya kudathu”

Read in Sri Ranganatha Paduka

Dasanudasan

*Nimithama kuda

Why can’t men balance family & women go to job?From vikraminside

Yes, there are so many such families adiyen has come across. It is only their situation that determines everything!

Who said universal solution not possible?From vikraminside

A universal solution is not possible because we don’t know what kind of problems individuals undergo. e.g., I know of a family where the head of the family (man) is a pious Gaudiya Vaishnavite with two children. He doesn’t have a proper job and does his own business for a meager revenue. He is not even interested in going for any job. Now how would such a family survive if we talk about dharma sAstram and command that women are not allowed to earn a livelihood? Hence it is better to leave it to the individuals to consult with their good acquaintances and take a wise decision.

– Adiyen

” women are not allowed to earn a livelihood ” where is it stated?

“The core of your problem should be discussed with some unbiased relatives/friends/well-wishers (having faith in dharma sAstram too) and can come to a certain judgment.”From vikraminside

When you want a desperate solution for a problem, you can depend upon your next-of-kins, friends, and well-wishers only.

Otherwise, we will be left with making decisions independently – whether good or bad. That’s it!

– Adiyen

ShAstram is telling for our good only.From vikraminside

Who said sAstram recommends wrong things? First of all, we don’t even know whether sAstram prohibits women to go for a job under any circumstances.

The point here is why it is difficult to follow, given that we (each of us) face a multitude of problems.

These are subjective issues where a unique solution is next to impossible.

Vikram Swami, idhu onnum maha pAdhagam illai !

– Adiyen

Not subjective, question was objective, is women always dependant on men?

shAstram does not prohibit women from earning on their own

May be devareer thought so

The root of the question comes because, “why should I be dependant on husband” ,

She clearly told “Husband will take care” in marriage mantram. It’s husband’s duty to protect as she is coming from another family.

In today’s world, financial independence means , getting freed from husband’s clutches. That’s where it will lead to.

” Na sambadhikkiren, unna edhukku kekkanum”?

Appo husband kku Panam vechu dhan madhippa?
Mutual co-existence ecosystem is completely ruined.

There was a movie in Tamil where Actor Muthuraman would want to exceed in earning than wife Jayalalithaa. That picture clearly depicts men’s attitude that’s because of fear women (wife) will overtake men (hubby)

This is my opinion.

Going to job or not should be left to husband’s & wife’s mutual decision. Third party involvement is dangerous.

Dasanudasan

“Udhyogam purusha Lakshanam” – Adiyen heard some where.
Dasanudasan

True! But in families where this doesn’t happen, what should we do?

– Adiyen

This is not even a problem to give solution Swamy.

This is a condition.

The whole idea revolves around “Anyonyam”. This is the universal recommendation.
Dasanudasan

Srivats Swamy,
May be devareer’s lens is soiled. Adiyen shared my clarity of thought.
I can take example from my own family
I left to wife’s choice. I will earn to sustain a decent living & won’t let the burden on my wife.
Dasanudasan

Swami,

You are taking the example of your family and stating an opinion. Now, how can you visualise the same scenario elsewhere? This is what I precisely meant by viewing through your lens only and offering an opinion.

On a lighter note, ungaludaya trademark answer ‘romba paaththa mudiyaadhu’ yengira badhil inge yen porundhadu??

– Adiyen

That’s stupidity Swamy
We can’t change those men. Why he married in first place I don’t know.
Dasanudasan

I know it’s easier to comment but to me forcing is wrong.
Dasanudasan

GOOD OR BAD IT IS MY DECISIONFrom vikraminside

I do concur. But we have a wide spectrum of people with different levels of confidence. Those people, who are not confident about making decisions independently, have no other go except to discuss with their acquaintances.

– Adiyen

Ok Swamy

Srimathe Rangaramanuja Mahadesikaya Namaha

Risk can happen anytime. Preparedness is the name of the game. If situation forces, husband is okay, then going to job to stabilize family should be fine.

We have to see at that point in time what is best. We cannot conclude, job is hard to get. Mutual decision prevails..

(Women) Job poi dhan kuduthanam pannanumna that life won’t be interesting at all. We will be like work horse.

Kalyanam karthigai pandigai time to kids won’t be there.

If I remember Velukkudi Krishnan Swamy, show your kids life & death. Put leave to school & attend functions.

The idea is to face life. Current education teaches students to commit suicide for low marks.

Damodar Dheekshitar Swamy says “Teach children to face life”

Same applies here. Face life come what may. With Acharyan Anugraham.

Dasanudasan

Every sahodari has this question. Why we see it as slavery? If there is mutual love such questions won’t even arise.

Sambadhikkardhu thavaru illai but husband consent venuma? Is thavaru’. Without husband’s consent individual decision will spoil family integrity.

Dasanudasan

Everyone’s life is not same. Sometimes people reject if dependent much.. Even husband says and does that. Not everyone’s family same.